Experience is key

September rolls around and with it, comes change. The days become shorter, the nights are longer, temperatures start to fall and the leaves scatter pavements to be kicked and played in by the schoolchildren as they make their way to school after a hot summer of fun with friends and family.

The nerves of a whole nation of four and ten year olds are positively palpable, as sleepless nights and tears soak anxious cheeks, and not just the children! As a granny to five wonderful children, I know the anguish parents feel and as a teacher to hundreds, I've seen those red faces and nervous eyes as they walk into my classroom for the first, second and third time. But, be assured that the tears fade to memories and before long it's a memory. Whatever was troubling, has now become ingrained into routine and the little ones are no longer so little and can take on the world (and likely, you!)

So, I ramble...

But why?

Because 'knowing what to expect' is probably the most underrated thing we, as adults take for granted. We know how to pay for groceries, but can you remember when it was new? We know how to drive, to run, to sit in a job interview... but the first few times were always just as nerve-wracking as our first day at school.

And when someone dies? Well... dealing with that is just about the most heartbreaking thing we ever have to deal with. It doesn't matter what your personal relationship was like, what matters is getting it right. Having the right advice, getting the day right... and you know what? It's different for everyone. I've supported large families and I've supported people who have no-one else to turn to, and in each and every case, it's been my absolute pleasure to advise, hold hands, pass tissues and share a coffee as each family member shares thoughts, memories and fears.

In the beginning of my journey -I won't lie- I was nervous. But time has given me opportunity to work with a range of funeral directors here in Derby and outside of Derbyshire, I've worked with families and arrangers to create some of the most stunning goodbyes that I never even thought possible.

Being a celebrant -being YOUR celebrant- continues to humble me and to honour me and the feedback I've received just reinforces to me how valued Celebrancy is. I could wax lyrical all day about my role and what I do and that's because I am passionate and experienced and it's so, so important to have both passion, but experience? Well... it's good to have someone in your corner who knows what they're doing isn't it?